Do I leave my husband for my boyfriend?

Hi there,

I understand that Beth Shepherd the psychic has been around a long time so decided to visit her website for tarot and agony aunt stuff.  It's amazing what you can find online now. It was not that long ago that I found out that my husband is gay, well at least he is bisexual, hard to say and he refuses to talk about it and explain himself.  Found a lot of porn on  his computer and messages on his phone. He is not a communicative or emotional man anyway. He told me that he is keen on looking at photos of guys but would never meet them, but hey ho found three messages where he was trying to arrange local meets with guys.  He insists he loves me and does not want us to end. This is where different agony aunts will say different things, different tarot card readers and psychics and clairvoyants will say different things. That is fine with me. But please tell me when you reply what your qualifications and experience are in this type of thing so I know whether or not to take any notice of you!  There are loads of amateurs out there who say they can be good at being an agony aunt but who are clueless, just clueless, one of them is my friend Fiona, she says do this and do that and gets it all wrong, her own life is in a total mess, so why would I listen to her? She is great to offload onto and we sometimes play around with clairvoyance and tarot and crystal ball readings and stuff together but we would never ever get to the point of taking her seriously and believing she is right.  Her own husband left her a few months ago and she is clueless as to how to handle it or how to get him back.  

The thing is that I was not that keen on my husband before all this, we had got pregnant and had a baby but that does not mean that I wanted to be with him forever, so this would be the perfect excuse to dump him, blaming him because he lied and sneaked around and wanted guys!

The only thing is that we own a house together (well some of it, the bank owns most of it) and it would be hard for me as I would then have to get a proper paid job and earn money - that is the worst of it. For three years I've been able to be totally a stay at home mom and just do what I want with a lot of time to do fun stuff and ring friends and stuff.  Not into work.

My boyfriend is not working and does not want to, we have a great time together, but he has a lot of debts and struggles to pay his rent.

Think I would make a good agony aunt or psychic myself. What do you reckon? It would pay well and I would be able to get a good handle on my own stuff when listening to others.  Have dabbled with the crystal ball and tarot cards and am very good at understanding others. Nothing gets past me.

Julie